Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
So true. I cannot make small talk. It gets awkward. What’s the point? Yes it’s cold. Obviously.
Oh, it’s snowing?
I just don’t care. If you have a story about someone who thought they were cool and spun into a ditch when they tried to speed past you I would love to hear it. I don’t need to hear about what is in store for your day or how your day is going.
I’m pretty sure I come off as rude because I don’t engage when someone tries to make small talk. Even if I tried I can’t. I get lost and cannot come up with anything to talk about.
Once, while I was at work someone saw that I had the 49ers logo as the background on my phone and he asked if I was a fan. I am a huge fan. I’ve been a fan since I was 8. As it turns out he is a major fan as well. He tells me he works with a guy who used to play for the Niners. So we started talking about how they are the best franchise in the NFL and their prospects for the Super Bowl. We talked about football in general. First time meeting this guy and we had a great conversation. Because I cared about the topic. It wasn’t pointless chatter that wasted my time. He comes in once a week, he’s a vendor for my job, and we talked about all kinds of things.
It’s difficult to get a conversation going with me, but if you do it goes and goes.