Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
This is one that does not completely relate to me. The description is me. I have never had a lot of friends and I the word “friend” seems to be stronger to me than to most people. Some people have considered me a friend but to me they were only an acquaintance. It takes awhile for me to consider you a friend. For example, I have a friend now who I have known for about two years, and only in the past couple months have considered her a “friend”.
It seems to me that most people would use the term friend to describe anyone they can carry a conversation with. To me there has to be more.
Now that I am actually analyzing myself it seems kinda weird, but, before I call someone a friend I think very hard about whether or not they meet my standards. I literally analyze our relationship to determine if they qualify. Which I actually have criteria for as odd as that may seem.
To name a couple:
It has to be someone I can spend time with one-on-one. I know several people that I can enjoy being around as long as there are other people around. They are these “friends of a friend’ type deal. But I would never consider hanging out with them if it was just us.
I have to be able to confide in them. The person has to be someone who I can talk about serious things with. I may not completely open up to them and pour my heart out, but I need to be able to discuss issues that are important to me. Most people I can’t do this.
There are more but I think you get the point. I can think of 11, maybe 12, people that I have ever considered a friend. In my entire life. I’m 25 now. I may be missing some. It could be as high as 15.
With that being said, the title of Myth #4 is not a myth for me. I generally despise people as a whole. I don’t hate them off the bat, but most people do things that really infuriate me. In fact I have another blog that is dedicated to that aspect of my life. It’s thoughtsofamisanthrope.wordpress.com/. Check it out. It’s quite entertaining.