Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Again, this is dead on. It is also the biggest issue for me when dealing with extroverts. They don’t get that I am okay with my own thoughts and that silence doesn’t mean something is wrong. I talked about it in detail in this post. I love getting lost in my own thoughts and daydreaming.
However, I do enjoy spending time with people; as long as it’s under certain circumstances. I hate huge groups. I can’t handle a lot of different people talking. They talk at the same time, everyone has a different opinion and it gets overwhelming. I can’t take it all in. I try to wait until I know people have finished talking before I share but they are never done. They all just blend into each other so I’m left with my opinions and unable to share them. But, it it’s a small group, just a couple people, I thrive in that. I love spending time in small group settings. It’s not all “go go go”. There are lulls in the conversation that I am to use to process everything. I am able to comprehend everyone and I can share my thoughts.
Small groups can get ruined by one person that tries to control the conversation. They always have to be talking and they have a story for EVERYTHING. These “conversation-hijackers” tend to make me disengage from the conversation.