Have you ever said something you though was funny or clever but wasn’t, then felt embarrassed afterwards?
This happened on April Fool’s Day. My boss told all of her subordinates that she was going to be relocated to another district. We all fell for it and reacted negatively. After finding out that it was a joke I responded, “I feel sheepish,” like the genie from Aladdin.
Nobody got it.
I may be very lively and fun in my private life amongst my close friends, at work I am very reserved and very private. This incident took place through a group text message so I got a little too comfortable and showed a bit of my entertaining side.
Immediately afterward I regretted it because several of my colleagues were asking about it which was just unwanted attention.
How true is this of introverts? This “two sides to the coin” type personality. I am very funny and a lot of fun to be around if I choose to show you that side. However, not everybody gets that privilege. It has to be earned in a way. Which makes for poor first impressions.
I have really noticed this lately when I visit Michelle at work. I’ve gotten to know many of the other employees at her work and feel comfortable letting my more comedic side of me show. Also, there are many that I have not gotten to know, be it a lack of opportunity or simply they are new, but I don’t talk to them as much.
So when I walk into the building I talk and joke with half the people, and the other half I don’t pay much attention to. I don’t mean to be rude or hurtful, I just don’t want to be exhausted with a conversation that does not hold my attention and that requires me to pretend like I care. Which is difficult and if I slip up I still come off as rude so it’s really a lose-lose situation. Do I ignore the person and appear rude? Or do I attempt a conversation and risk showing my disinterest?
Have you ever had a similar situation where you showed more of yourself than you were comfortable with? I would love to think I’m not the only one. Please leave a comment and let me know, or submit your story so I can share it with others.